“Our “imperfections” teach us how to be more aware of our strengths.”
Have you ever felt this? I have!
Long gone are the days when I used to beat myself up for not-being-good or not-feeling- worthy enough to face the world straight in the eyes! The more I focused on my ugly, not-so-likeable parts; the clear my views were about how good I’m just like anybody else!
My imperfections were a disguise of my other best skills and qualities; that I never paid attention anyday. We build this ‘bubble of opinion’ that society and people force us to create! And we feel safe to stay in that bubble. We don’t take risks to come out of it and to explore how good we are! But, I took that risk to set myself free from all the opinions and decisions “others” had formed for me.
It is my affair with my imperfect-self that cleared all the negative aspects of me and gave me a reason to share my stories with you- to help you see your true-self, that’s worthy of love, respect, and inclusion just like any other person! ~The Positive Window #thepositivewindowTweet
The Positive Window #thepositivewindow is the “channel” that’s going to bring that awareness to you. Its an effort created by me to help you see your ‘higher self’ – in an imperfectly perfect way. There’s beauty in the things that are odd; and being imperfect and or flawed is not bad at all!
So what makes us fall for the urge to seek approvals from others constantly, and to be who others want us to be? I believe everything boils down to one important reason, and that is, “not being fully aware of who we are in real.” A constant validation process feels more doable and easy for us than to be just being “ourself”! Istn’t it? If we don’t fully understand the person who we are, it is almost impossible to become that person.
Trying to be perfect for everyone else around me was so very exhausting. I lost myself, my identity, and got lost in ‘being perfect’ so that the society could accept me, appreciate me, and include me. It never even occurred to me that it didn’t make me less worthy and less valuable of a person if others didn’t like me or if I wasn’t “perfect”.
We often lose ourselves in the noise of judgement and validations from outside. Therefore we shut our sense of understanding and appreciation for our own self too! We stop feeling for ourselves. Result: self-hatred, poor confidence, and lack of self-esteem. Google search says: “Everyone lacks confidence occasionally but people with low self–esteem are unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.”
I grew up to be an adult with very low self esteem, and with the lack of self awareness. I always looked at myself as being a faliure, dumb, worthless, an imperfect girl who is incapable of doing anything perfectly. It took me a very long time to realize my worth. But once I did, I stopped chasing for people and things that didn’t see me worthy and important.
My Imperfections were my gift.
No wonder they brought me to this sacred space of where I belong now- being A Positive Radiance to myself and for the world. Society was busy pointing at my Imperfections and labeling me with not-being-good-enough, while I was busy using those criticisms to build my “New Space” where I can operate from pure power, joy, and acceptance. Realizing that I am too gifted with unique powers, a light there’s within me that can remove darkness from other’s life, and my own, and that can bring the change of good thoughts to everyone; gave me the courage and confidence to share my stories with you all.
Here are 3 very important tips I want to share with you to Embrace Imperfections and How To Become Stronger Being Imperfect. I hope you find them helpful and start making good changes in your life, because you deserve it. Know that, “You’re worthy and important just like anybody else around you.”
1. Recognize that you are not alone, and therefore don’t listen to your thoughts, or be afraid to be vulnerable.
Embrace who you are and find your tribe that will appreciate you, accept you, and will love you just the way you are! You will be so happy to know that you’re not alone in this big world. Someone out there has gone through similar challenges and trials as you have been through. This thought itself is so empowering, and has always helped me to recognize myself as worthy as others. By sharing your story you will share the light with someone, and you will provide the courage to the ones suffering silently. Vulnerability allows us to be authentic self, and to understand ourselves better. With vulnerability, we build empathy, understanding, and sharing feelings feels easier. And that’s how we encourage others to do the same, and make them feel important and powerful.
Most of the times it’s our ego or the fear of criticism and judgement that stop us from sharing our story. But by doing so we will only hurt ourselves, and will live life in self-doubts and negative destructive thoughts, that steal our moments of self love and self-acceptance. Avoid listening to your egoistic negative thoughts that tell you, ‘you are not perfect, or you are incapable’. Recognize that you are not your thoughts.
2. “There is a kind of beauty in imperfection.” ~Conrad Hall
Whether we are a child trying to avoid bad grades or an adult who is trying to be the best at work or a know-it-all perfectionist among friends and peers, we are all struggling with accepting our [own] imperfections.
But there’s beauty in accepting who we are. It’s so liberating to accept that we are not perfect like our friends or peers. We are real humans born with great and not-so-great qualities. When we can accept this truth, we can let go all the strings of judgement and criticisms that was once bogged us down. Difficult emotions like shame, vulnerability, and not being enough constantly remind us that we are imperfect and therefore not beautiful. And this fear hold us back to let our true selves be seen and known.
But the first step towards accepting our imperfect self is to focus on our strengths and not on our weaknesses. Just because we are not good at one thing, that doesn’t mean we are a failure. We are still capable of doing big things and achieving sucess in life.
3. Confront your inner critic by telling, “I am good. I am beautiful. I can do this”
When we fail or mess things up, we stop working, we stop moving forward; because we think we are not good at it. By stopping, hating ourselves for not being perfect, and by breaking down we can never heal and become stronger. But by accepting our mistakes, failures, unlikable parts of us, hateful habits and qualities, we will operate from a more accepting space within us. Therefore remind yourself again and again, “you are good. you are beautiful, and you can do this, just like anybody else.
People who are brave and strong are not afraid of sharing their weaknesses and inner wounds, because they know it’s the only way to heal, and to evolve as a strong woman/man. Through this journey of self-acceptance, I have learned so many things that profoundly altered the way I approach life now.
I am glad I’m following my calling and helping you find your joy, confidence, and creativity to make you believe in the impossible.
Remember, we are all connected. So try to send love to other people when they expose their imperfections. This way we also create our space to accept and heal.
I have lived my life in fears of being exposed about my inadequacies, my weaknesses, my insecurity, my need to be liked. I have spent years trying to hide my imperfections from others. By embracing our imperfections, we’re teaching the world to be more accepting of oneself and others. When we own our flaws, accept our imperfections, we develop the capacity to offer this same grace to other people.
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